IMPULSIVE OR COMPREHENSIBLE?

I find it interesting after many years to reflect on attitudes that I had in my career and obviously have today, after all the more we seek growth in our career the more attitude we have to have.

I remember well the positive points of making friends, offering support, and valuing teamwork, things that have always been natural to me, but I also remember pointing out mistakes openly and criticizing injustices openly, even putting my finger in the face of hierarchical superiors (yes, very impulsive lolrsrs). Even if I had plausible evidence to justify my criticisms over time I began to understand that there are less impulsive or even offensive ways to criticize, or even to charge for something that we think is fair.

Of course, impulsiveness also brought me benefits, such as a fast ascension, a keen sense of competitiveness, and a huge commitment to work and results.

With time we learn the right balance between being impulsive and compressible, and even understand that impulsiveness is also a valuable weapon if used in the right way and at the right time.

At all times in life we are challenged to make decisions, and these will affect our future momentarily or even permanently. To think that we will always be rational or that our feelings don't affect us is to try to take what we have of humanity out of us and I certainly wouldn't recommend it, even more as I said, impulsiveness was a feeling that helped me to stand out, even if sometimes I was a little out of touch lol.

Well, if we can't live without feelings, because after all everyone who is reading this article is human, what can we do to better manage our feelings and let them guide us to a better decision making.

Another thing that I learned with time is that feelings are also something that we learn to manage with time and that we can study them to understand them better and when we understand them better we can understand our reactions and how to control them.

I have learned over time and with good books and good advice some important tips that I want to leave here and that I deeply believe can help you who are reading this in your career:

1- Humility: To listen and learn, to also not let power, money and vanity make you think you are better than the other next to you, because if you do that you will be too far from people for them to follow you.

2- Empathy: To really wear the other's shoes, but really trying to think with the other's head, understanding motives, circumstances and avoiding judgments. Understanding that people have opinions, tastes and beliefs different from yours, and that there is no need to judge whether they are better or worse than yours. When you can truly capture the feelings of others and why, it means that you have created a true connection, and only a true connection is able to create true friendships, true partnerships, and fairer responses to what the other needs from you.

3- Action: Never stand still, whenever you don't know what to do, even so choose something, because if you make a mistake you will have learned something and this will be good, even if in the long term, and if you get it right you will also have learned and the return will be in the shorter term. One way or another your learning will be part of your life collection, a unique asset.

4 - Be fair: Fair is neither more nor less, simply the exact measure, if you are good to someone without justification or merit may be creating a bad habit for this person or even failing to teach the value of meritocracy. At the same time if you do something that harms someone else you must remember that you never know when you will need each other and that the world goes around. And also that there are always more people looking out for you. If you are not fair, you will also not be an example, and there is no true leadership without good examples.

5- Balance: Make time for your personal life, for work, for health, for study and for leisure. Whenever something bothers you, ask yourself first what you are feeling, why you are feeling that way, what you can do about it that can be positive. And remember that the things that we don't have a solution for and that we can't do anything about are things that will be solved one way or another, and that the only thing that you can do and that you should dedicate yourself to is how you are going to react to everything that you experience.

6- Love: Love what you do or try to do what you love, don't get stuck in a job that is not what you love, and if you have something that you really love you can be sure that you will be good at it and that the money will come as a consequence. But also remember that money is not the only measure of success. Remember to love everything you have, because if you don't value what you have today you can be sure that having more won't make you happy. Love your trajectory, your history, after all you are unique.

I'm sure I haven't unraveled life (rsrsrs), I don't pretend to be a guru either, I just want to leave here reports of some attitudes that helped me understand more about life, my actions and how they affect me and my relationship with others around me.

I am sure that there will always be a lot to learn and that we can always seek to be the best version of ourselves. I hope, however, that some of the experiences that I have had and that have helped me, can be of use to you.

Some books I recommend, the last one being a nobel prize winner:

1. Emotional Intelligence - Daniel Goleman

2. How to Make Friends and Influence People - Dale Carnegie

3. The Power of Habits - Charles Duhigg

4. Fast and Slow: Two Ways of Thinking" - Daniel Kahneman

A big hug and if you can comment by adding book tips and experiences, I would really like to learn from you too!

Jean Apolidorio

CEO - AIRBPO